Friends, I would like to share to you the healing miracle of letting go. As I believe that God gifted me with my own style of writing (all my books I have written so far are about turning the complicated into simple), I am happy to once again relay to you a simple yet powerful message.
There’s a saying that goes like this….
“Sometimes it’s holding on that makes you stronger, sometimes it’s letting go."
I believe on this saying.
There are instances in life that we need to hold on.
But there are also instances in life that we need to let go.
In the earlier years of my career as a medical doctor, I had a lot of things in mind that I need to accomplish. I have goals, I have dreams, I have a long list of things to do every single day.
These could range from the most simple to the most complicated, from having a haircut(yes I write this in my things to do before) to reading a book on astronomy. Sometimes my list of things to do is so long that one whole sheet of bond paper is not enough for a day. Of course, this habit of long list to do was a consequence of having lots of goals in life. My goals would range from the most simple goals (jogging for 1 hour) to the most complicated (variety of ventures to be started all at the same time).
Those years, I was holding on to my dreams
Those years I was holding on to my goals
Those years I was holding on to my long list to do.
How did I feel that I was holding on?
I could feel the “holding on” because every time I accomplish something in my list of things to do, I feel my muscles relaxing. I feel a release of tension. Meaning when I write those goals and dreams and things to do, I tense. Tension is a sign of holding on.
Let me go back to the saying I mentioned earlier……
“Sometimes it’s holding on that makes us stronger, sometimes it’s letting go”
So how did my years of experience of“holding on” made me stronger?
Friends, I believe it made me stronger in many ways.It made my muscles stronger, as the cycle of muscle tension and muscle relaxation made it so.
It made my determination stronger.
It made my habit of relentless pursuit of written goals stronger.
It made my habit of manifesting reality stronger.
It made my foresight stronger.
It made my “doing” stronger
However, with all its strengths, it also has its downside.
I got burned out. I got drained with all the “doing doing doing”.
In short, I got sick.
Rather than bringing myself to the hospital, I decided to listen to my body.
I paid attention to my body trying to communicate to me.
When we get sick, it’s our body’s way of communicating to us.
So instead of getting rid of the sickness, I decided to befriend the sickness , thanking my body for its effort to communicate to me.
Sometimes it’s letting go that makes us stronger, according to the saying I mentioned earlier.
So what does it mean to let go?
After years and years of being overwhelmed with “doing doing doing”, I got burned out. It was something like a speeding car coming into a halt as it runs out of fuel.
I found my way out of the burn out by the process of letting go.
How did I let go?
By opening myself to the other side of doing…the being side.
Bro. Bo Sanchez calls the “doing doing doing” a workaholic.
Bro. Bo calls the “being” a lifeaholic.
I found the wonderful world of“being” when I slowed down and pondered on what life is all about.
Making a living and living a life are two totally different things.
A workaholic makes a living.
A lifeaholic lives a life.
What kind of life? A life that is from the core of our being.
I decided to start living from the core of my being. This meant a life that is centered on family, health, mission and spirit. This meant a life that is centered on relationships...
Relationship with others
Relationship with our families
Relationship with ourselves
And above all, relationship with GOD.
Holding on makes us stronger in many ways, but it contracts us.
Whereas letting go makes us stronger in much more ways, and it expands us.
Letting go makes us stronger all the time, not just sometimes.
So let me upgrade the saying I mentioned earlier….
“Sometimes it’s holding on that makes you stronger, sometimes it’s letting go”
Upgraded version of Dr P:
“ Sometimes it’s holding that makes you stronger, all of the time it’s letting go”.
Anything that you hold on to loses its value. Anything that you let go gains its value.
So which do you prefer?
Holding on or Letting go?
To be a human doing? Or to be a human being?
I don’t know about you but I want to be a “human being”, period.
Take note my friends, all of the time it’s letting go that makes us stronger.
May you continue your journey of happy healing with the spirit of love and gratitude.